How Do You Know?
By Anthony Douglas Gere
Don't know where this will end up, but I'm gonna start it any way. This isn't really a
theory or a question, but maybe a personally answered request to everyone that has
witnessed this in many ways, one time or another. In reading this, don't limit your topic
to one thing, but use that one thing to compare it with other things you do. For example,
I'm a hopeless romantic and business fanatic with talent, so certain elements, trigger
me towards a inner attraction that has nothing to do with sight. In business, I don't take
on things for any particular reasons, but use certain reasons to make things happen.
Those are the natural magnets or instincts in me, that draw me and things near, far and
productive. This also goes for the negatives, as I may want some things out of lust, but
those things that display themselves to me as needs, are addicting to the love I have for
it and self. But I'm finding that the older I get, not in years so to speak, but in experience,
I'm becoming more discipline and wiser in my selections. Some things can't be helped,
and certain quirks you know are there, but ignore or praise, make the difference in
defining who you are as a person. So that's why I'm writing this piece, and asking you
and myself, how do you know?
Perception and perspective, are two things that are universal, but also unique in how
they affect us. I mean everyone knows Pamela Anderson is a walking fantasy, Jimi
Hendrix a insane guitar player, Cristal, the champagne of the trendy and a convertible
600 Mercedes Benz, the ultimate way to drive on a sunny day. But those things are
universally accepted, and not necessarily what each of us would select to include in
displaying our way of acceptance or happiness. Take me for example, I think Ms.
Anderson is cosmetically stunning, but not what turns me on fully. From what I know
and see, I would fuck her, but could never make true love to her. It has nothing to do
with her really, but the mental connection I constantly fantasize about with someone
that relates to things that stimulate me naturally. I deeply like the more natural
woman, that enjoys the simple things in life with a feisty streak in her. The woman
that doesn't need to drink Cris, and can have just as much fun playing scrabble at
night, eating popcorn in sweats and wearing one of my dress shirts with no make up
on. That's sexy to me, someone flawed perfectly to my own attractions. Someone
comfortable enough to be them, not the 24 hour Barbi doll with every hair in place.
Not a walking billboard that's says, "hey world, look at me!", but someone that looks
at the world with them in it. But don't get me wrong, and that's just me. I'm sure
Pamela is pretty down to earth behind the scenes, and on the screen she's using
what she has, to get where she thinks she needs to be. But you get the
picture, so lets skip this commercial and find out, how do you know?
If you know it or not, I'm a serious movie buff. I seriously enjoy watching movies at
home, in the theaters and on the road. And I'm a old school guy with it, I mean yeah,
I have a collection that looks like I turned one of my rooms in my house into a
Blockbuster, but I like video's, not the DVDs. Why, who knows, but that's just my
thing. Any way, most of my movies are ones with deep meanings via romantics,
dramas and comedies. I can't handle the scary ones, because it does nothing for
me. Besides, I don't like to be scared, I like being loved and taught about life,
through others eyes. In many of the movies I watch, there are questions I would
like to answer to my children when they grow up. Most of the women that know
me intimately, know of this question, and I think its the most telling example of
what you and your partner represent to each other if you reach a certain level of
comfort. The question or scenario goes like this. Whenever I get married and
have children, and they grow up and reach the time of attraction in their life to
acknowledge and show interest in the same or opposite sex, hopefully opposite,
I want them to come up to me or my wife and innocently ask this question.
"Dad or mom, when did you know that you would be with dad or mom forever?
Or when did you know you were in love, and they were the one? How do you
know?". Oh boy, when that happens, I hope they have a few hours to kill, because
I'm going to take that conversation to levels not yet thought of. I want them to
understand the passion, the loyalty through the good and bad times, while also
absorbing the uniqueness in knowing that out of the millions of people in this
world, this one person, makes me a better me. This is the one person that I
compromised all of my selfish ways for, and put forth a effort in faith to represent
what I'm all about. This will be the conversation I once asked my parents, and
cemented in me, a non-settling standard of life. You see to me, children are
something special. They're innocent, and searching for something to identify with.
So if you the parent are unhappy and settling for something you know is not what
you want or capable of having, then your offspring will connect that standard to their
own, and define whatever emotional standard to your example. If they can see and
feel the love, they can relate that to their life, and place that foundation as
something to build upon. If your child sees his parents getting high, fighting all of the
time, lazy, being non-productive and isolated in the same room and tell the child they
are in love, then that is what the child, world and spiritual forces will identify with
what your definition of love is. If they see communication, loyalty, a healthy unified
system to progress, then they will equate it with that, and more importantly, know
the difference. So when I do get the chance to reach that tradition in my one day
family, you best believe, it will be one moment for the ages.
By Anthony Douglas Gere
Don't know where this will end up, but I'm gonna start it any way. This isn't really a
theory or a question, but maybe a personally answered request to everyone that has
witnessed this in many ways, one time or another. In reading this, don't limit your topic
to one thing, but use that one thing to compare it with other things you do. For example,
I'm a hopeless romantic and business fanatic with talent, so certain elements, trigger
me towards a inner attraction that has nothing to do with sight. In business, I don't take
on things for any particular reasons, but use certain reasons to make things happen.
Those are the natural magnets or instincts in me, that draw me and things near, far and
productive. This also goes for the negatives, as I may want some things out of lust, but
those things that display themselves to me as needs, are addicting to the love I have for
it and self. But I'm finding that the older I get, not in years so to speak, but in experience,
I'm becoming more discipline and wiser in my selections. Some things can't be helped,
and certain quirks you know are there, but ignore or praise, make the difference in
defining who you are as a person. So that's why I'm writing this piece, and asking you
and myself, how do you know?
Perception and perspective, are two things that are universal, but also unique in how
they affect us. I mean everyone knows Pamela Anderson is a walking fantasy, Jimi
Hendrix a insane guitar player, Cristal, the champagne of the trendy and a convertible
600 Mercedes Benz, the ultimate way to drive on a sunny day. But those things are
universally accepted, and not necessarily what each of us would select to include in
displaying our way of acceptance or happiness. Take me for example, I think Ms.
Anderson is cosmetically stunning, but not what turns me on fully. From what I know
and see, I would fuck her, but could never make true love to her. It has nothing to do
with her really, but the mental connection I constantly fantasize about with someone
that relates to things that stimulate me naturally. I deeply like the more natural
woman, that enjoys the simple things in life with a feisty streak in her. The woman
that doesn't need to drink Cris, and can have just as much fun playing scrabble at
night, eating popcorn in sweats and wearing one of my dress shirts with no make up
on. That's sexy to me, someone flawed perfectly to my own attractions. Someone
comfortable enough to be them, not the 24 hour Barbi doll with every hair in place.
Not a walking billboard that's says, "hey world, look at me!", but someone that looks
at the world with them in it. But don't get me wrong, and that's just me. I'm sure
Pamela is pretty down to earth behind the scenes, and on the screen she's using
what she has, to get where she thinks she needs to be. But you get the
picture, so lets skip this commercial and find out, how do you know?
If you know it or not, I'm a serious movie buff. I seriously enjoy watching movies at
home, in the theaters and on the road. And I'm a old school guy with it, I mean yeah,
I have a collection that looks like I turned one of my rooms in my house into a
Blockbuster, but I like video's, not the DVDs. Why, who knows, but that's just my
thing. Any way, most of my movies are ones with deep meanings via romantics,
dramas and comedies. I can't handle the scary ones, because it does nothing for
me. Besides, I don't like to be scared, I like being loved and taught about life,
through others eyes. In many of the movies I watch, there are questions I would
like to answer to my children when they grow up. Most of the women that know
me intimately, know of this question, and I think its the most telling example of
what you and your partner represent to each other if you reach a certain level of
comfort. The question or scenario goes like this. Whenever I get married and
have children, and they grow up and reach the time of attraction in their life to
acknowledge and show interest in the same or opposite sex, hopefully opposite,
I want them to come up to me or my wife and innocently ask this question.
"Dad or mom, when did you know that you would be with dad or mom forever?
Or when did you know you were in love, and they were the one? How do you
know?". Oh boy, when that happens, I hope they have a few hours to kill, because
I'm going to take that conversation to levels not yet thought of. I want them to
understand the passion, the loyalty through the good and bad times, while also
absorbing the uniqueness in knowing that out of the millions of people in this
world, this one person, makes me a better me. This is the one person that I
compromised all of my selfish ways for, and put forth a effort in faith to represent
what I'm all about. This will be the conversation I once asked my parents, and
cemented in me, a non-settling standard of life. You see to me, children are
something special. They're innocent, and searching for something to identify with.
So if you the parent are unhappy and settling for something you know is not what
you want or capable of having, then your offspring will connect that standard to their
own, and define whatever emotional standard to your example. If they can see and
feel the love, they can relate that to their life, and place that foundation as
something to build upon. If your child sees his parents getting high, fighting all of the
time, lazy, being non-productive and isolated in the same room and tell the child they
are in love, then that is what the child, world and spiritual forces will identify with
what your definition of love is. If they see communication, loyalty, a healthy unified
system to progress, then they will equate it with that, and more importantly, know
the difference. So when I do get the chance to reach that tradition in my one day
family, you best believe, it will be one moment for the ages.
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