My Comments on Feedback Page 3
By ADGere
In my experience, many people want to become rich and successful, but they don’t
want to go through what it takes to claim that title. It’s the same thing with love,
trust and understanding. I am sure that some of the things we do as people to
others, we wouldn’t stand for if they were doing them to us. I know I am guilty of that
many times, and have tried my best to limit my mistakes by being unlimited in the
things I am willing to do for those I surround myself with. I may come across as a
person that is very public to some, but in all reality, I am a very private person. I
wear my heart on my sleeve constantly in everything I do, and can not or do not have
the ability to hide things well, which can be very destructive in business. So I
surround myself with people that may be sterile in certain areas when it comes with
dealing in a emotional way, because in the end, I will clean up the mess with
an non-emotional point of view. Even with women, I have been called too sensitive by
my male friends, because things do get to me, and when it does happen in a manner
that I feel is not deserving, I show it. I might or may not cry, but my voice drops, my
eyes get tight and my overall mood shifts like the San Andreas Fault line. When I am
hurt, I basically shut down and re-group. I don’t yell, scream or throw scenes,
because lets face it, where is that gonna get you, besides in jail or something close
to it. I also do not hit women, though I have retaliated in a forceful way when pushed
in a corner where I felt I was being controlled or forced out of my own free will. I
remember when I was a child and was talking to the great Bill Russell. Yeah that Bill
Russell, the legendary Hall of Fame basketball player for the Boston Celtics. Now my
Uncle Bill, he isn’t really my Uncle, but close to the family because my father played
basketball with him in high school and was in my parents wedding back in the day.
In talking to him, he told me that being a Black man, being taller than everyone else
and being athletically gifted in size and strength can be a gift and a curse. He told
me that the reason or one of the reasons he was so quiet to many, was because
when he spoke, he projected a louder sound and that sometimes came across as
overly aggressive or intimidating. Because of his size, people are easily intimidated
by him and if anything were to go down or happen, they would automatically assume
that the big bully beat up the smaller person. That made sense to me, so as I
became a man and grew into the size I am now, I start noticing how people are
quick to assume I am a football player or athlete of some kind. But I have fun with it
when people ask me do I play sports and answer, “No, I’m an opera singer, hate
sports and play bingo every Thursday at the local lodge with my friends”. I can’t
blame them for stereotyping me, but on the same hand, I can’t condone it either.
So back to the theory and its meaning or reasoning for being here, because this
theory if you know it or not, is for you. Love to me, is a lot like life. How do or would
you know someone is what or who they say they are, I don’t know that answer. I
think you just have to go for it on some level, and pretty much decide if this is the
person you are going to give yourself to unconditionally. There are no guarantees
in love and life, so basically you must give and take on mutual level, and that can
be a great start to something that may never end. I have only been in a hand full of
committed relationships where I thought at the time I was giving my all, but knew
I wasn’t because I was so focused on my career. I’ve played broke when I was
rich, played rich when I was broke, just to see if the person was with me for the
reasons they said they were. But in the end, I was playing a game just like they
were, so I was just as guilty for lying and deceiving them as they were me. Now
I am far from a relationship counselor or someone that has the professional
skills to consult people on their relationships for many reasons. 1, that is not my
field of expertise, 2, I am not sure what relationship counselors do and 3, to me,
every body and every single situation is different and it is all based on
circumstance, situations and more. I write what I know about based on my
experiences. They might not be right for you or wrong for someone else, but for
me, based on the path I have traveled, they are right for me because I have lived
long enough to tell the tale about it. I write things for you to read that for me, are
things I wish to share. My thoughts, my feelings, my standards for relationships, life
and love can be taken in many ways depending on where you are in your life. If you
feel me, relate or you feel yourself through me, is what it is. Many or some may think
I am crazy, full of shit or what ever but ask yourself this, does any of this shit makes
any sense when I talk or write about it? Also think, what am I as the reader getting
from what he is writing, is it entertaining, insightful, does it provoke feelings and
thoughts that you carry into your life after reading, or do you leave the same and
unmoved and chalk it up as a waste of time?
By ADGere
In my experience, many people want to become rich and successful, but they don’t
want to go through what it takes to claim that title. It’s the same thing with love,
trust and understanding. I am sure that some of the things we do as people to
others, we wouldn’t stand for if they were doing them to us. I know I am guilty of that
many times, and have tried my best to limit my mistakes by being unlimited in the
things I am willing to do for those I surround myself with. I may come across as a
person that is very public to some, but in all reality, I am a very private person. I
wear my heart on my sleeve constantly in everything I do, and can not or do not have
the ability to hide things well, which can be very destructive in business. So I
surround myself with people that may be sterile in certain areas when it comes with
dealing in a emotional way, because in the end, I will clean up the mess with
an non-emotional point of view. Even with women, I have been called too sensitive by
my male friends, because things do get to me, and when it does happen in a manner
that I feel is not deserving, I show it. I might or may not cry, but my voice drops, my
eyes get tight and my overall mood shifts like the San Andreas Fault line. When I am
hurt, I basically shut down and re-group. I don’t yell, scream or throw scenes,
because lets face it, where is that gonna get you, besides in jail or something close
to it. I also do not hit women, though I have retaliated in a forceful way when pushed
in a corner where I felt I was being controlled or forced out of my own free will. I
remember when I was a child and was talking to the great Bill Russell. Yeah that Bill
Russell, the legendary Hall of Fame basketball player for the Boston Celtics. Now my
Uncle Bill, he isn’t really my Uncle, but close to the family because my father played
basketball with him in high school and was in my parents wedding back in the day.
In talking to him, he told me that being a Black man, being taller than everyone else
and being athletically gifted in size and strength can be a gift and a curse. He told
me that the reason or one of the reasons he was so quiet to many, was because
when he spoke, he projected a louder sound and that sometimes came across as
overly aggressive or intimidating. Because of his size, people are easily intimidated
by him and if anything were to go down or happen, they would automatically assume
that the big bully beat up the smaller person. That made sense to me, so as I
became a man and grew into the size I am now, I start noticing how people are
quick to assume I am a football player or athlete of some kind. But I have fun with it
when people ask me do I play sports and answer, “No, I’m an opera singer, hate
sports and play bingo every Thursday at the local lodge with my friends”. I can’t
blame them for stereotyping me, but on the same hand, I can’t condone it either.
So back to the theory and its meaning or reasoning for being here, because this
theory if you know it or not, is for you. Love to me, is a lot like life. How do or would
you know someone is what or who they say they are, I don’t know that answer. I
think you just have to go for it on some level, and pretty much decide if this is the
person you are going to give yourself to unconditionally. There are no guarantees
in love and life, so basically you must give and take on mutual level, and that can
be a great start to something that may never end. I have only been in a hand full of
committed relationships where I thought at the time I was giving my all, but knew
I wasn’t because I was so focused on my career. I’ve played broke when I was
rich, played rich when I was broke, just to see if the person was with me for the
reasons they said they were. But in the end, I was playing a game just like they
were, so I was just as guilty for lying and deceiving them as they were me. Now
I am far from a relationship counselor or someone that has the professional
skills to consult people on their relationships for many reasons. 1, that is not my
field of expertise, 2, I am not sure what relationship counselors do and 3, to me,
every body and every single situation is different and it is all based on
circumstance, situations and more. I write what I know about based on my
experiences. They might not be right for you or wrong for someone else, but for
me, based on the path I have traveled, they are right for me because I have lived
long enough to tell the tale about it. I write things for you to read that for me, are
things I wish to share. My thoughts, my feelings, my standards for relationships, life
and love can be taken in many ways depending on where you are in your life. If you
feel me, relate or you feel yourself through me, is what it is. Many or some may think
I am crazy, full of shit or what ever but ask yourself this, does any of this shit makes
any sense when I talk or write about it? Also think, what am I as the reader getting
from what he is writing, is it entertaining, insightful, does it provoke feelings and
thoughts that you carry into your life after reading, or do you leave the same and
unmoved and chalk it up as a waste of time?
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