Unclaimed Baggage
By Anthony Douglas Gere
The great lyrical genius Chuck D of Public Enemy once said, "If you cant
change the people around you, change the people around you". Now, that
quote, as poetic as it is, is so multi-dimensional, that you can take it left, right,
down the middle, up or down and still never come back to where you left,
without being right or straight up the middle on where it took you. Of course
there is much more than that said that was before and in the aftermath in that
statement that resonated within me when I first heard many years ago, but that
is the centerpiece on what I feel I need to vent to you today, so welcome back
again, for tha first time. I guess what really hit home with me when I heard that
the other day in my head, is that as I have been growing and maturing in ways I
never thought I would, and I am noticing things changing with and within me
and leaving me at the same time. You know like the ole saying says, "Three or
four things can and will change a man, 1) jail, 2) church, 3) death or 4) a child".
Well I think I am free on bail for a while and have been for many years (smile), I
have always considered myself a good Christian and man of faith, I am not
dead I don’t think, but yeah, I do have Tha Heir, bugging the hell outta me on a
regular basis, so maybe that’s what is happening (smile again). But I am
changing, and for some strange reason, it either seems like I am changing, or
the people I am around, staying the same in a different way. I don’t think the
change on my part or others is good or bad, but as the world keeps spinning, I
think gravity is pushing to pull me, somewhere magical. I even ask and answer
questions differently, and I am not sure if I got any smarter or wiser, or just
noticing things more and spending less time worrying about tha shit that will
never be worth pissing on from this point forward. But anyway, this
Phenomenal Woman recently asked me, "Do men really like or are they
seriously attracted to women that are barely dressed and showcase their body
more than their mind". Well I think that’s a fair question, and seeing how I am a
man that was once only a male, felt and deeply feel qualified in answering it,
since she freely asked. Now to me, there are many parts to that question, and
for the most part, I think it is where a man is at in his life, what he finds
stimulating, how he feels about himself and how he feels about women and
females in his own perception on what he sees. Now for me, hell yeah, I love
looking at a woman with a cute face or bangin body, barely showing clothing
and shaking and using what her mama gave her to get attention, I don’t have a
problem with it. Now in saying that, when I was younger and didn’t know any
better, and was only thinking with one head, or at least half of that one, she
was tha bomb as far as I was concerned, and I honestly didn’t give a woman
with a good conversation a chance to say anything to me because simply, that
was not what I was looking for. But then after running through those "types" of
women like water through a water hose, I found that in the majority of cases,
everything stopped after I couldn’t get pass how I got them or what made me
go after them in the first place. I guess you can say that the bait I used to use to
get and catch those fish, was and is not the bait I use now, to keep them. Now I
am not saying they were dumb, stupid or anything like that, and to be fair, many
felt that was a way to get a man not knowing they are simply males, and more
than likely, learned it from the examples they had growing up in their lives. And
its true, the "hot chick" in tha spot will always get you to look and the attention I
think, and for them, at least in my experience, may get a few winks and drinks,
jewels, things and interest. But to me and knowing what I know now, it’s pretty
hard to keep a man of substance when the way you got him, is based on style
and flash. What I laugh at is when I am out with a woman, and how you can see
the jealousy in how she reacts to women doin’ a little bit, too much. To me, it
silently speaks volumes when I see someone hatin’ on someone else, and
basically tells me things without a word being said. In my humble opinion, I truly
feel that men eventually, will date someone like the most influential woman in
their life, and that could be their sister, mother, guardian or someone they grew
attached to and respected.
By Anthony Douglas Gere
The great lyrical genius Chuck D of Public Enemy once said, "If you cant
change the people around you, change the people around you". Now, that
quote, as poetic as it is, is so multi-dimensional, that you can take it left, right,
down the middle, up or down and still never come back to where you left,
without being right or straight up the middle on where it took you. Of course
there is much more than that said that was before and in the aftermath in that
statement that resonated within me when I first heard many years ago, but that
is the centerpiece on what I feel I need to vent to you today, so welcome back
again, for tha first time. I guess what really hit home with me when I heard that
the other day in my head, is that as I have been growing and maturing in ways I
never thought I would, and I am noticing things changing with and within me
and leaving me at the same time. You know like the ole saying says, "Three or
four things can and will change a man, 1) jail, 2) church, 3) death or 4) a child".
Well I think I am free on bail for a while and have been for many years (smile), I
have always considered myself a good Christian and man of faith, I am not
dead I don’t think, but yeah, I do have Tha Heir, bugging the hell outta me on a
regular basis, so maybe that’s what is happening (smile again). But I am
changing, and for some strange reason, it either seems like I am changing, or
the people I am around, staying the same in a different way. I don’t think the
change on my part or others is good or bad, but as the world keeps spinning, I
think gravity is pushing to pull me, somewhere magical. I even ask and answer
questions differently, and I am not sure if I got any smarter or wiser, or just
noticing things more and spending less time worrying about tha shit that will
never be worth pissing on from this point forward. But anyway, this
Phenomenal Woman recently asked me, "Do men really like or are they
seriously attracted to women that are barely dressed and showcase their body
more than their mind". Well I think that’s a fair question, and seeing how I am a
man that was once only a male, felt and deeply feel qualified in answering it,
since she freely asked. Now to me, there are many parts to that question, and
for the most part, I think it is where a man is at in his life, what he finds
stimulating, how he feels about himself and how he feels about women and
females in his own perception on what he sees. Now for me, hell yeah, I love
looking at a woman with a cute face or bangin body, barely showing clothing
and shaking and using what her mama gave her to get attention, I don’t have a
problem with it. Now in saying that, when I was younger and didn’t know any
better, and was only thinking with one head, or at least half of that one, she
was tha bomb as far as I was concerned, and I honestly didn’t give a woman
with a good conversation a chance to say anything to me because simply, that
was not what I was looking for. But then after running through those "types" of
women like water through a water hose, I found that in the majority of cases,
everything stopped after I couldn’t get pass how I got them or what made me
go after them in the first place. I guess you can say that the bait I used to use to
get and catch those fish, was and is not the bait I use now, to keep them. Now I
am not saying they were dumb, stupid or anything like that, and to be fair, many
felt that was a way to get a man not knowing they are simply males, and more
than likely, learned it from the examples they had growing up in their lives. And
its true, the "hot chick" in tha spot will always get you to look and the attention I
think, and for them, at least in my experience, may get a few winks and drinks,
jewels, things and interest. But to me and knowing what I know now, it’s pretty
hard to keep a man of substance when the way you got him, is based on style
and flash. What I laugh at is when I am out with a woman, and how you can see
the jealousy in how she reacts to women doin’ a little bit, too much. To me, it
silently speaks volumes when I see someone hatin’ on someone else, and
basically tells me things without a word being said. In my humble opinion, I truly
feel that men eventually, will date someone like the most influential woman in
their life, and that could be their sister, mother, guardian or someone they grew
attached to and respected.
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